Yesterday’s holiday has me thinking back on an old memory.

Over two years ago, a well intentioned gal sent me this article while I was pregnant with Archie. I had a visceral reaction to it. I remember feeling deeply offended and hurt by the idea that my dog Chauncey would become anything less in our lives.

This dog came with an endearing story. He gave my husband and I something to dote on for the first few years of our marriage. Announcing Archie’s anticipated arrival was pretty difficult because it privately began my questioning about where he’ll fit in. But the steps we took before I had my son and the plan in place for after, helped.

Fast forward to present day, now a busy household of four that revolves around a “spirited toddler,” and Chauncey still carries a very important role in our lovely mess, especially my mess of a life.

No, he didn’t get me a Mother’s Day card or make me a bird house, but he’s still my favorite. He remains my best friend and favorite thing to cuddle. Chauncey and I still sleep close every night, his presence bringing me peace and deep comfort. On days I haven’t wanted to parent Archie, I held Chauncey and cried. Him being there was quick therapy and got me back up and running with my responsibilities. And on days I’ve dragged my feet to my desk to start another work day, his prancey pitter patter running behind me motivated me to run Rover-Time.

So does having a kid make you love your dog less? My answer: it doesn’t have to. Becoming a Mom has been a great honor. But the day I became Chauncey’s best friend was also important, in very sweet and simple way. And I take it seriously,with fierce loyalty because he deserves nothing less.

Julia Rohan founded Rover-Time in January of 2012 and received her formal training at FetchFind Academy, a program for aspiring dog trainers, based in Chicago. Julia lives in Irving Park with her husband Mark. Together they co-parent Archer, their 2-year old son, and Chauncey Billups Vanderhoff, an over-confident, territorial, and anxious 8lb. Chihuahua-Terrier mix. Both boys melt her heart hourly.